維持健康婚姻的提示

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我一直對如何成為一個好母親和妻子有很高的標準。這篇博文更像是我發洩。
我知道我的性格很強硬,並有很多自己的想法。當你對你的家庭有特定的目標和期望時,很多事情並不能自己一個人完成。
在我的事業,學業上,我自己一個人一切都進行得很好; 我總是管理好自己,一齊也在掌握之中。但作為一個母親和妻子卻是一個完全不同的角色!我有時會發現自己很迷茫,不知道該怎麼做。有些人可能會覺得我已經擁有了最幸福的家庭,並且我已經很好的管理這個家。但事實上,我感覺自己像沒有支持一樣支離破碎。
我不確定這是否僅僅是我,或者其他女人是否有時也會這樣想。我的丈夫 -我孩子的父親 - 有時只是“身體“在我們的生活中,事實上並沒有完全參與我們的生活。我隨意搜索了“如何成為一個好丈夫”,並且實際上閱讀了所有對我有用的東西。但毫無疑問,我知道如果我建議我的丈夫閱讀這樣的內容……他最終會告訴我,“請不要相信這個廢話。我不相信這些東西“ – 這些話是我與他分享一篇文章時跟他的回應。當這樣的時刻來到時,你有什麼需要應對?世界上有沒有其他方法可以拯救或幫助我的婚姻?或者幫助我的婚姻進入更好的方向?
我不是婚姻專家,但我猜我寫這篇文章的原因是為了提醒人們溝通非常重要。對於那些仍然願意為他們的關係而努力的人,這裡有一些建議:
你需要真正地傾聽對方:不要只是說出來,而是真正意義上的傾聽對方。當你的伴侶有什麼可以告訴你的時候,給予你100%的關注。你可以暫停任何手上的工作,並給予15分鐘,1小時或更多時間給你最愛的人。
如果信彼此之間失去了信任,而你真的想糾正這種情況,那就請把它放在心上,而不是只為了“維繫”這種關係。我覺得一旦信任被打破,雙方便很難達成共識。但是,如果你仍然有彼此的感情,你應該說出來。但這行為必需是雙向而不是單向的,就像我的丈夫和我這樣。如果一個男人不能真誠地向你表達自己真實的感受,並且不得不去找別人去訴苦…..這可能是時候想想你們應否繼續在一起。
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當你覺得合適時,應該真誠感謝你的伴侶並採取行動。不要因為其他人告訴你應該為你的伴侶做些事情而做,而是應該因為你自己想這樣做而去做。會這樣做是因為你感到開心和愉快。
這些事情聽起來很容易,但有時說起來容易做起來卻很難。我希望看完這篇文章後,你會覺得:哇,我想念我的妻子/丈夫,我應該更加珍惜她/他!現在,在你回家之前去買些鮮花或者準備好一頓美味的晚餐。生活中的小事情將為你的家庭增添力量和成長。
謝謝閱讀!
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Shaolin Pot@FOODiNG’s

Shaolin Pot

121 El camino Real

Millbrae CA 94030

Service: 5 star AWESOME! The waiters are super busy but they care about their customers + make sure that they are meeting your needs

Price: $$ – It really depends, Its an AYCE place, so if you eat lots, it can be a $ sign, haha

Attire: Casual

Photo of Shaolin Pot - Millbrae, CA, United States. beer marinated lamb

In the Bay Area, we have tons and tons of hot pot places that serves the typical broth + ayce meat + veggies. I’ve heard about this new place and wanted to give it a try since their gimmick is a bit different than other places. They start off your hot pot experience with a “Chicken dry pot” which is basically a Spicy Chicken pot with lots of flavors meddling in your mouth. I would highly recommend this place if you like the idea of hot pot but wanted to add a little twist to your mouth.

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The Chicken pot is nice and spicy with full of flavor. The portion is not really big so it is more of a appetizer  before you wait for the real course to come. Once you are done with all the chicken, the waiters will add a broth into the same pot for you to start your hot pot.

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They have a good selection of meat and vegetables for an AYCE place

Photo of Shaolin Pot - Millbrae, CA, United States. Menu

We especially liked their fish paste things, it seems to be that it is home made at the location. It is not super doughy and you definitely can still taste the fish.

 

Photo of Shaolin Pot - Millbrae, CA, United States. beef

That is all the meat we were chopping on! It’s nicely and thin cut! Dip it in your self served and self picked sauce, your ready to go!

 

Thanks for reading!

Travel Cheap with 2 kids + layovers

When you are traveling with kids, I have mentioned that it is best to travel light.  For cheap flights, you probably would encounter layovers so it is very wise to carry less items.

For my trip to Tokyo, I have a 25 hours lay over @ Beijing. Since handling 2 toddlers is already a heavy load. I definitely recommend having everything packed in one luggage. Even if you have to check in one big luggage, do it. Since a hand carry would most likely not be enough space to put your baby items.

I’ve made sure I’ve done research. Most airports where there are airlines with long layovers, they will have this paid service to have your luggage stalled at the airport for a fee so you can be cleared free while you wanderlust in the country for 25 hours. I’ve checked that Beijing airport has this service for 50 RMB per day which is definitely worth it for us. I would recommend doing that and having a backpack to just put 1 days worth of cloth and necessity while your out and about.

This will definitely make your travels easier as hauling a luggage around Asia can be very crowded and dangerous for your little ones. I like to have more clear room to push my stroller and not worry about my luggage.

Depending on which terminal you get out from, here is good link provided by the airport to guide you to the storage service area.  Check it out if you are going to be going to Beijing. I know Shanghai also have this service. If you want to find out about other airports, feel free to send me a message and I can check!

thanks for reading about my little advise!

Dasheng BBQ@FOODiNG’s

Dasheng BBQ

331 W Garvey Ave
Monterey Park, CA 91754

 

Attire: Casual

Service: not super duper, but it is bearable. I come here really for the food. Don’t expect much.

Price: $

If you like Chinese street style food. You need to give this place a try. It is super cheap and super good. You see lots of regular foreign students coming here on a daily basis. The average wait time is about 30 mins to 1 hour. It is super popular among locals. It is a restaurant with bunch of skewers. Lots of meat and good portions of side dishes.

They don’t really speak English, so you may want to bring a Chinese speaking person to go with you. It is not a very visible restaurant. In fact, it don’t even look like a restaurant from the outside. They have blinds covering everything. Once you get in, you will feel as if you arrived to China. It’s not really a clean place for those who really care to eat at somewhere that is clean. It’s more of the type where there are table settings and your sitting on the streets eating street food; this is really what skewers are all about in China.

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Picture of my daughter before we went to snack. She was a happy camper haha

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you order these little lamb skewers, it is about 60 cents each. We usually get a bunch at once, because its super yummy and it is really bite size. You can go through many sticks without noticing that it is all finish! oh yea, it is really good with some beer as well!

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The cucumber is marinated with sauce and garlic. Your mouth will smell stinky afterwards but it is super super yummy and crunchy! This comes out before the skewer, so you can nibble while waiting

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They have these yum seafood. Juicy and piping hot when it comes out. BBQ style the Chinese way. It’s really good.

You also have lots of options to have dishes steam in aluminum foil then put no the grill. The steam will create water which leaves certain items better that way.

 

This place don’t have high reviews on yelp, but probably because they didn’t pay for advertisement! haha! but don’t let that stop you from going. It really is for the heart of soul. For those who really know and ate skewers in China before.  This place is good for a midnight snack and for dinner. Most people take skewers as beer food but I can eat it anytime! IT IS THAT GOOD TO ME!

 

illy Caffè@FOODiNG’s

illy Caffe

220 Montgomery St, SF CA 94104

b/t Bush St & Pine St, Financial District

 

Service: great, self serve

attire: Casual

Price: $

Don’t we all love caffeine? If not, that is fine we have lots of non caffeine selection and pastries to please you. I’ve stumble upon this little gem on my way to hiking. They have regular good espressos and coffee. But if you are looking for some variety, they have lavender latte, honey rose latte, almond latte to name a few. The aroma and ambiance is just so soothing with their music on. I can sit there all day with my laptop and sip on my coffee with a bite of pastry.

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I think their espresso is super strong and good. It is all over europe. When I lived in London and Norway, Illy was everywhere and I hide out in those shops for hours to get my homework done + calm myself.

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I love how their coffee is in tin cans so it would stay fresh and seal the coffee in better than the paper bags. I always take some home with me for my morning coffee run.

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you can see they have a wide selection of pastry and good. Don’t be shy on trying some. The servers are really nice here. You can have them toast up or warm something for you if you like it warm. There are many sweet treats and savory bites. So it really do satisfy everyone. You can really be here for the whole day eating a pastry in the morning and having a sandwich for lunch! haha

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They have super clean and nice decor here. I love their little espresso cups and I find these super cute as they have drawing and art pieces from famous people and country. It is literally all over their shop! you can always pick one up. I use to collect these at home. I would buy one from each country I visit where I see illy!

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ha! Just in case you don’t see. They have the big one right in front of the store and inside way in the back for picture posing!

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So long for now, thanks for reading. Please share and like my post!  I will continue to share more of my foodie experience with everyone.

thank you!

New Lun Ting Cafe@FOODiNG’s

New Lun Ting Cafe

670 Jackson St
San Francisco, CA 94133

b/t Grant Ave & Beckett St 
Chinatown

Service: quick and great!

Attire: Casual

Price: $ 

Are you looking for some yummy cheap finds of filling lunch?! I love this place! I’ve stopped by this place after a long hike and decided to get their lunch special. It was a pork chop dish with gravy + Free Milk Tea + Free pot sticker + Free soup.

I love the word Free! It just makes everything taste better. It was a good start of my meal to be served hot soup + a pot sticker before my main dish came. It is not a fancy place but it does justice to your tummy.

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The pot sticker was piping hot which is how I like them. The bottom was nice and crispy while the inside is hot with some meat and veggy! The soup is nice and warm with really soft carrots boiling.

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My main dish is this gravy porkchop rice! OH lord it was yummy. The pork chops else where is usually fried/ panfried but this one seemed like it was roasted and roasted tender. It falls apart into pieces easily and its super smooth. People with poor teeth can still eat this ahah. They also don’t shy away from putting more gravy on the dish. LOVE IT!

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The other yummy ox tail dish.

This is also one of the favorites for people who regularly dine here. So I had to give it a try, and oh my god! It is so tender and juicy! The dish was super savory and the amount was generous! Sometimes, the beef may be too hard to chew on and would not taste good, but the tendon and meat in this dish was superb! MUST TRY

 

You definitely don’t leave this place hungry because it is a really filling restaurant. I think it has exist for quite a long time, so there really isn’t any fancy decoration or renovation. It really is about the good food and that is about it. Come eat and go kind of style. Fast and nice. While I was eating, I felt like this was a real genuine neighborhood type of storefront since it seems like everyone knew each other. The waiters called most of the parties by its name and always asked if they needed more! It’s such a homey and happy restaurant find in Chinatown SF.

Come give it a try for yourself and let me know what you think of this place.

 

Thanks for reading & I’ll continue to share more of my foodie experience with you !

 

HOW to travel light & with kids! Packing Tips

Traveling is fun and packing is not.

DAISO helped me pack!!!! for cheap $1.50!!!! 

Since I have little kids travelling with me, I always always want to emphasize on packing as little as possible. I hate how my in laws and parents would pack SO MANY items that are really unnecessary while travelling. My husband always complain because if they packed many items, it will end up being us carrying it; even if they say that they will, unless your cold heart and won’t help the old senior citizens out. Haha, actually my husband sometimes would purposely not help so that they will understand not to bring so much the next time.

I recalled going on a trip with my mother in law for a weekend. She brought so many items, it wouldn’t fit in one bag. My husband told her that it should be no more than one bag so we can travel light. We need our hands and energy to be focused on the kids. She didn’t listen, brought a few bags and it was just a hassle trying to carry everything and watch the kids. She would always say to us, “I don’t have much items, its all packed for your kids.”  We often get annoyed of this response. In conclusion, there goes lots of toys, cloths, things we really don’t need into the suitcase. CLUTTER THAT IS. which makes it really hard to find anything when we unpack and makes packing everything up a whole lot of time wasted.

HERE COMES TO BEAUTY OF PACKAGING ORGANIZERS!! WOOHOO.

I’ve bought these amazing little organizing packets that allows you to fit everything tightly together and not feel like a mess! The method I find the most useful to maximize space is by rolling the cloths.

Reasons to fold cloths by rolling: 

  • you can easily find your cloths without have to spread out everything
  • very neat
  • space maximization

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I highly recommend buying a few of these and just limit 1-2 of these per person so we know how much we bring along the trip. Plus it makes finding things really much easier. You really want to save space to bring home goodies + you want your hands to be free to carry the kids and watch over them.

It’s really dangerous when you travel and let your kids run around at a location that your not familiar with. Things and accidents happen just within mere seconds and there is no “sorry” that can turn back time. I get really paranoid and would make sure my kids are next to me the whole time. They always have their hands held by my side or they would be pulling my shirt to make sure we are all connected together. It is definitely turning on my mama bear binoculars; better safe than sorry.

 

I know there are higher priced packing cubes out there, I really chose the cheap one from Daiso as it serves its purpose! But, if you do want to go more high class and fancy. My cousin bought ones from this website and I’ve heard great things about it. You can check them out yourself.

Packing Cubes  – This Company do good things and work with Charity. Check it out! 

Expectation for Entering Kindergarten

Hi everyone,

I’ve been applying to Kindergarten for my oldest daughter as she will soon be entering. I’m new to schools and have found it quite confusing at times. I wanted to share with you what most schools have told me to prep for my child. Hopefully this will help yours to be on track or use it as a guidance

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NOTE THIS IS THINGS YOUR CHILD SHOULD KNOW BEFORE THEY ENTER INTO A CLASSROOM- or you can simply start working on these aspects.

  • Count from 1-20
  • Write numbers 1-20
  • Read & write all Alphabet
  • Know how to sound out short words
  • Know how to sound out the Alphabet
  • Memorize home address
  • memorize phone number (parents number or an emergency contact number)
  • Trace and color pictures
  • write own name
  • addition + subtraction with numbers 1 to 10
  • know her birthday
  • listen to story without interruption
  • tidy up after himself/herself
  • recognize Shapes and Sizes

This is the information I’ve received. They are going to have an assessment before they enter into class. This is to make sure that the kids are broken down into classes for their proper level. I thought this was only something private schools do, but I guess wrong since my child is going to be attending public school and do need to take an entry assessment.

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I’ve search for some good sites to help prep your child. Feel free to use these as references.

Kindergarten worksheets for tracing 

Beginning sounds worksheets

vowels worksheets 

Shapes & colors 

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Salt & Straw@FOODiNG’s

Salt & Straw

586 Hayes St
San Francisco, CA 94102

b/t Octavia St & Laguna St 
Hayes Valley

Attire: Casual

Price: $$ for ice cream

Service: Friendly and lots of sampling!

Photo of Salt & Straw - San Francisco, CA, United States. Salt & Straw:  In Hayes Valley, San Francisco. Outside view.

Who don’t like sweets and extravagant flavors?! I love how they have seasonal flavors and condiments. I chose the Honey Lavender today, if you do like Lavender items this will please you. The aroma is awesome. Once you walk into the store, you can smell the sweetness of the waffle cones in the making! You need to come and give this new place a try. It’s fairly new in Hayes Valley, but I know there are a few more other stores around the bay area + Seattle.

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The ice cream is definitely on the sweeter side.

You can do a bunch of tastings before you decide on your favorite. If you really just love a few, they have the tasting flight which they allow you to pick about 3 flavors to indulge. I would recommend the tasting if you have a group of people, with your kids or just because you love ice cream.

The service may be a bit on the slower side because people do ask for samples, so there may be those few who tastes many flavors. If you don’t have much time, they have the prepacked pints in the fridge for you to take on the go.

Photo of Salt & Straw - San Francisco, CA, United States. December 2017 Holiday Flavor Pints

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